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The Lame Shame Cycle

You know how it goes: You feel lame about something in your life -- your debt, your weight, your diet, your habit. You want to be more well-read, more well-rounded (or ... er ... less rounded ...). You want to be less stressed out, budget your money better, stop yelling at your kids.

So you vow to stop. Or start. Or do better. You're going to change. You vow, you resolve, you promise yourself (and others). And you try. You really do. Maybe for a week. (Studies show that's about how long 30% of New Years resolutions last! Ha!) Or longer. But then you fail.

And when you fail, you feel lame. Bad, guilty.

So you vow again. You double vow. You're going to try harder. But then you fail again, even worse! And you feel worse.

Round and round we go with that -- vowing, trying, trying harder, failing, failing farther, feeling lame. Until we begin to give up. "Lame" turns into "shame." "What a loser. I'm so weak. Failure. Why can't I get this? Other people can ... what's wrong with me? I just can't ..."

Believe it or not, the Bible actually taps into this cycle in Romans 7.

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing!

Can you relate? (You're thinking, "That's in the Bible?! Man, that's the story of my life!") Join us at TerraNova this weekend to discover how to get out of that vow/try/fail/lame cycle.